I love my corporate training schedules....Reason? Endless...
To start with..keep your mobile phones switched off for ages without guilt, 5 star gourmet , get to meet pretty girls( intelligent too) in an otherwise mundane life, interact with different verticals of the business, share some success stories and most importantly week long fun...
Last time was different......it left me empty ...In one of the sessions she ( super qualified trainer)asked us to write our journey of life, situations which made us happy and sad....
An ideal man should have a balanced life.... the kind of happiness I was used to in my life was not there...why why why?? This was one answer I wanted to know more than anybody else.....
I was happy till the time my life was simple...infact very , very simple.....then who made it complex. My choices.....
Why did I choose ..my choices....as usual my unending desire for excitement and new experiences....there is a great adrenaline rush which makes me happy....something to know, something to experience, something we have never experienced.
I have been brought up extremely independently...may be this is one of the major reasons ..why I think i want so much to experience in such a small time ..my lifetime.
Then when the adrenaline subsides ...then settles the fact of life...the truth of ur choices...your decisions...some morally correct , some socially incorrect, some act you will hate to have done, some people you are so glad you met, some regrets to let go ur innocence, some smiles you brought to other’s life.
We are a bunch of unhappy people since the time we started having choices....in our life...be it in materialistic things, be it in relationships, be it in our expectations from our life/or partners, or jobs.
I was happy because i thought people were like me, SIMPLE. I am sorry .....people are everything but SIMPLE.
Why is it so difficult to be simple...simple people are not socially acceptable...We have become so judgmental with everything in life....each word spoken should have a inner meaning, an honest gesture should have an underlying motive....
A man/women who is not conversant with social eticates is uncalled for. I heard a lady dumped her date ..reason ‘ he dosn’t know how to eat with a chopstick’....or the guy ...who had a session spent over a drink taking about how the girl he met has never heard of Gucci brand. ‘Oh my gosh ....these people have no right to live..’..he said .This is our social standing today.
My question is how does it matter if he has never experienced a Chineese cuisine with chopstick, or a girl who has never heard of the Gucci brand. How many people can we find in these world who will accept things that they dont know??? And its ok....its in fact perfectly ok...
May be they are a different breed of people...infact only good thing about them they are candid about their superfluous shallow views. Over the years I have known people who are worst than this....they also need to live....
Worst part is these days parents, are so proactive in propagating materialism in their kids. Just to share an anecdote...I know a mother who believes her kid is materialistic and instead of ensuring that materialism is not a path to happiness.....she believes her kid should find a partner who shares the same thought. I think there is a very deep cord to explain these kind of teachings....i think i can understand why....may be I will write about it some other day.
My journey of life has been quite eventful and learning about people. So long we have less choices in life we are happy, wern’t we happy when we were in school and a summer holiday was spent with family , or spent with maternal grandparents....but these days our holidays are with friends ..cause we have grown up....cause we bankers earn enough to spend a fortune in Goa and never had to bother again as our bonuses will give us enough money to spent a holiday in Bahamas the next time..most of the time that is the first and last trip with him/her.
But the simple things are just lost...may be we don't understand that....
Friendship is another exaggerated word. We don’t have too many good friends.....but i have seen so many good friendships being broken because of the excitement of the new things. ....
I was asked by somebody that why do I have so less friends.....I didn’t answer the question to her. But may be I want to answer this today.......
how may of us can call up a friend after a year and start form exactly where you left the last time .... I can....in fact all my friends can. I just love them and glad that they are a part of my life.
Last night I was talking to one of them and we were taking after ages ...and she asked me why are we (includes few more friends) so great friends ...and I answered INNOCENCE......
Truely ..we still have that innocence and the simplicity going after two decades of friendship.
Our life is a matter of choices...in fact not choosing is also a choice we make....
and somehow I have found the elixir of life SIMPLICITY.......and may be each day I try to be a simple person , in terms of my needs, expectations, and may be my life.
Even though i love my Calvin Klein & Dior perfumes, and newly bought T.H watch but simplicity is not about saying ‘let's get back to the good old days when we had nothing and liked it" it is more about ...your inner self....today ..with all the choices we have.
